5 Reasons For Success As Well As Struggle

I have been writing on politics , crime , diamond planets, fashion , fitness ,actually from anything to everything but never shared my story of struggle to become a successful  woman and after reaching the platform where I stand today, I feel this is the right time to share it with those who blame it on a MILLION reasons for not being successful. .

Well ,it can be really frustrating when you’re not getting results in your home business (whatever business you’re in).

But, part of the frustration is that it’s easy to imagine that there are millions of reasons for why you’re not succeeding.

But there’s not.

There’s only about 5 reasons why someone would not get results in their business…..and those same 5 reasons are the reason why others (like me) are earning THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS PER DAY.

And I’m going to show you what they are.

But first of all, you have to understand that “not getting results” is a NORMAL thing until you reach a certain point in life where you decide to take personal responsibility for creating your own results and realize that the only guarantee that is provided in life, is what YOU DECIDE to create regardless of what happens.

So, here are the 5 reasons for struggle…..and their counterparts are the 5 reasons for success:
#1 Strugglers don’t have consistent clarity of outcome. Successful people know their outcome in advance.

You’ve heard it said before. In fact, you’ve probably heard it a million times but you’re still not doing it. You have to have a crystal-clear outcome for what you want to achieve. And people who struggle either a.) don’t have that or b.) don’t hold that outcome with consistency.

Here, I’ll prove it to you: answer this question right now in less than 5 seconds without having to think about it: “What’s your specific, numeric income goal for the next 30 days and what will achieving it do for your life?”

Nine people out of ten cannot answer that question without having to “come up with an answer”.

Which means that — for those 90% — they’re going through the motions of their business without really knowing what they’re doing it for.

Or, if they DO have a clear outcome, they don’t focus on it for a consistent period of time.
The solution: get clear and stay clear. Be consistent. You’ll automatically be in the 1% of human beings who are actually creating their life on purpose. And you’ll be setting yourself up for eventually being in the top 1% income.
#2 Strugglers do not follow instructions with integrity and consistency. Successful people are coachable, trainable, action-oriented…and they do it over and over.

Simply put….you do not do what you’re told. You claim that you do. But you don’t.

The truth is that most people who say they’re “doing everything I’ve been told” are only doing about 20% of it at BEST.

Most people are only doing what’s convenient. The stuff that doesn’t require them to get out of their comfort zone. The stuff that doesn’t require them to actually get their hands dirty.

Or if they DO go through the training, they only go through it once…..a majority of that time, they weren’t paying attention. Out of the things they’ve paid attention to – they’ve ignored about 80% of the advice, and just don’t do it, at all.

Even the people reading this who are LISTENING NOW to advice honestly… and getting results realize that they are not even doing half of what we’ve taught, most of the time.

How do I know this? Because I make over $30,000 per month across my online businesses and even I can’t claim to have “gone through all the training” or “have done 100% of it”. I’m claiming less perfection than someone who’s making no money at all but who claims to have gone through all the training!
The solution: instead of just buying the training…..actually go THROUGH the training. Turn off your Facebook. Turn off the cellphone. Tell your family that you’re going to be occupied for about an hour every evening to work on yourself. When you actually DO that (instead of just paying it lip-service), you’ll actually be in a position to start expanding your potential.
#3 Strugglers do not respond to feedback. Successful people are constantly tweaking and adjusting their business in response to their results.

I’m using the word “feedback” to describe how your prospects and your list responds to your marketing and your communication.

Simply put, strugglers don’t adjust their strategy. Successful people are constantly making adjustments.

For instance, strugglers never bother to tweak a video that’s not converting. Strugglers don’t adjust their headlines or subject lines when their letters aren’t getting opened.

Most people don’t alter how they tell stories if nobody thinks they are interesting. Most people don’t pay attention to whether what they are doing is even working or not. They just blindly do something and then act bewildered if it doesn’t work.

Why? Because most people have an “entitlement” mentality. They think that they can get rich on the Internet without having to develop their own marketing skills.

That’s why all the “we do it for you” offers are so popular. It appeals to people welfare mentality.

But the people who are making tons of money are the people who are flexible and who constantly make adjustments in their income-producing activities in response to feedback.
The solution: Understand that the only free cheese is in the mousetrap. There’s no such thing as a single email, video, ad source, headline or presentation that will work 100% of the time. Being a professional marketer is about being flexible and making adjustments.
#4. Strugglers have an expiration date on their dreams. Successful people are willing to do whatever it takes to achieve their goals.

The key here is “whatever it takes”. Regardless of what that means (as long as it’s ethical and moral).

Notice I didn’t say “whatever it takes as long as it doesn’t mean doing something you don’t like or don’t want to do.”

Notice I didn’t say, “whatever it takes as long as I can do it without spending money.”

Notice I didn’t say, “whatever it takes as long as I don’t have to do something that will make me or my spouse nervous”.

I said “being willing to do whatever it takes”.

Strugglers don’t do that. They operate with a mindset of “giving it a try” or “seeing how it goes”. They’ve got an expiration date on their efforts.

And that’s why that I — or any other top leader — cannot really help these people.

Because when they ask for help and advice…..they don’t really want help and advice. They just want some validation for what they’re already doing.

I’ll give you an example. I have a friend in my business who I’ve known for probably 20 years. He’s been here for about 6 months. He’s as capable as anyone I know of being successful here.

But he’s not really interested in doing “whatever it takes”. He’s willing to do “whatever it takes as long as it doesn’t involve me getting out of my comfort zone”.

And that’s the mental mistake that’s keeping him from having the breakthrough that he and his family need and deserve.

The actual mistake is not realizing that — long before we get into his decisions to not access the training that’s available to him, why he’s not actually doing what we teach, why when he DOES do it he doesn’t stick with it — we have to acknowledge that….

…underneath all that is the simple fact that he’s not really committed to his business. He’s not really willing to do what it takes to be successful.

The only thing that should be excluded from the “whatever it takes” formula are things that violate your personal values, your morals or your beliefs. For instance, if an Orthodox Jew believes it’s wrong for him to do any work on the Sabbath — even though I don’t share that belief — I would respect his decision to not attend a meeting on the Sabbath.
The solution: stop setting limits on your efforts. If you’re not willing to do “whatever it takes” (within your values, morals and beliefs) to reach your goals, then you cannot expect to get the same results as those of us who are. Commitment is the name of the game and integrity is everything.
#5 Strugglers engage in low-value, low-energy activities. Successful people engage in high-value, high-energy activities.

Let’s be clear: all success is the result of taking high-value action over a consistent basis.

Let’s break that down into two items: (a) high-value activity and (b) consistency

(A) High value activities are what creates results. You have to put in the energy. Energy comes in different forms.

It might be “time”.
It might be “effort”.
It might be “money”.
It might be “leadership”.

It’s usually a combination of all those things.

But one thing is true: you cannot get significant results without putting in this energy. Insufficient energy will not produce the result you want.

It’s like trying to light a fire in the fireplace without putting in any fuel.

The other part of the equation is (b) Consistency.

You wouldn’t plant a seed and then dig it up an hour later to see why it’s not a full-grown tree, would you? Of course not. Even when you’re applying the right energy, things still require that you apply that energy over a period of time with consistency.

Working your ass off for an hour today and then skipping 4 days will not do it. Nor will doing it for a week, skipping a few weeks and then coming back a month later.

The reason I made over $5,000 in my first month Empower Network is because I actually showed up every single day and engaged in high-value activities…..and I did it again the next day….and the next…..and the next…..and the next…..

…and suddenly I was making $200 per day…..then $500 per day…………it’s still growing from there!

Now….do you have your Big Boy Pants on? Because here’s the point of this entire article:
You are EXACTLY where you are in your business because it’s where you’ve CHOSEN to be.

Read that again.

The degree to which you will argue with me about this is the degree to which you are still blaming someone else (the company, your sponsor, your spouse, your boss, the government, etc.) for your struggles.

Stop. Take ownership of your business.

Quit pretending that your situation is someone else’s fault. It’s not.

This is where you’ve chosen to be. And at ANY moment in time….you can start choosing to start getting a different result.

So…..

Are you REALLY listening?
Are you REALLY doing everything that it takes?
Are you REALLY paying attention to the trainings?
Are you REALLY applying high-value actions every day?
Are you REALLY willing to do “whatever it takes”?

Better question:
What aren’t you doing yet – that you’re now deciding to do?

Traffic Signal

Delhi the National Capital of the Country has the highest concentration of "super-rich" and "rich" and  the second most favored destination for FDI . Its an is  attractive destination for tourist  with the second highest share of foreign tourists . Delhi with the highest density of road network (i.e.1739km per 100 sq km of area) compared to the national average length of 75km. With respect to the length of surfaced roads, It is also  among the most advanced economies in India, and the biggest consumption center in India for consumer goods and cars .The five National Highways  converging onto the Ring Roads of the National Capital Region of Delhi have resulted in severe congestion with  thorough movement of passenger and goods vehicles over the entire day. With best of the state infrastructure , roads flyways at disposal traffic is a big problem. A problem that is created by the drivers who do not follow the traffic rules. Here is the picture that I took last night while waiting behind an Auto Rickshaw driver  waiting for the traffic signal to turn green to go right . I waited until a gentleman came out of nowhere and directed the auto driver to make way for my car which had to go left and  had led to traffic jam behind me .

 I Realised even though  I honk or give dipper its not going to work as this auto rickshaw  had formed a fourth row blocking the left turn which is a freeway . Well I thought of doing something worthwile unlike someone who would have lost temper or had yelled at him .  

Candle Colours

The burning of candles for spiritual works goes back to ancient times Those who believe in spiritual candle burning can find important messages in the flame and  the candle colors are believed to have their own significance  .Candle Color Believers  ,believe the Colors of Candles have a deep meaning and there are those who know what they mean and stand behind their meaning. These people use certain color candles to help them focus and meditate on problems in their life or in others lives. Though I am not the one who believes in candle colors but here are  some candle color meanings

White              
Health,Cleansing,Purity, Truth

Red

Love, Sex,Energy,Domination

Yellow

Success,Creativity,Concentration

Blue

Peace,Wisdom,Court Case

Green

Money,Luck,Healing

Black

Spellbreaking,Separation,Banish Evil

Pink
Attraction,Affection,Honor

Orange

Friendship,Stimulation,Dreams

Purple

Power,Protection, Keep Evil Away

Brown

Finance,Earth,Caution

Grey

Uncrossing,Clarification,Meditation

Gold

Gambling,Financial
Success

Candles

Candles have been a part of our culture for many years .Candle burning is part of our day to day life and many of us don't even realize how much. In our day to day life candles are lit at church, lit at funerals and always lit at the top of our birthday cakes that we blow out each and every year. Candle colours to have their own significance which I shall deal with in my following post . "Candle Color Believers" usually burn candles along with other forms of beliefs and for many of us candle burning is a religious belief for others it is a form of therapy , for some a part of healing and for me one of the passions and are necessary element to enhance the interiors . Few candles ( along with the link to source ) that may tempt you to elaborate your collection.....

                                       http://www.fabfurnish.com/home-decor/candles/?page=1

                                                        Image courtesy Fab Furnish.com

Wall Decals

Wall decals are specially prepared paper bearing a picture or design for transfer to wood, metal, glass,etc and as the name suggests walls of course. I myself being an interior designer have an opportunity to play with colours all the time  but my all time favourite is white with a splash of colour and  that makes my style statement. Well , I really don't like to impose my  preferences on my clients as  its them , who ultimately have to live with those colours but I have rarely failed to sell my ideas to them. Here is a tip along with the links ( where one can source the relevant products from )   that can make a difference to your home as well .

http://www.fabfurnish.com/home-decor/wall-decals-stickers/

Image courtesy Fab Furnish.com

The Beginning Of Another Night

Every object around us has a story to tell so does the sun while it sets " The beginning of another night " I was fortunate to have the company of  A.M.Faruqui (Photo journalist) else  there was no way I could have captured the  mesmerising sunset !

all pictures Copyright ©2012alkanarula 
Photo credits A.M.Faruqui

Bedia Tribe Madhya pradesh

 Bednia often referred as Bedia , a Schedule Tribe in India,  inhabits Madhya Pradesh and Bihar. They are known to be skilled in the folk arts of dance and music, rural acrobatics and black magic. It is believed that to a member of the warrior caste, robbery or prostitution is preferable to manual labour. During the British colonial rule, this nomadic tribe was branded  as  Bad man  (known as  bedias in Hindi meaning wolfs) which later deteriorated and came to known as Bednia .  These people are notorious for their tradition of introducing girls into prostitution.Marriage generally is not allowed for Bedia girls, especially within their community, although community marriages do occur sparingly. But once these marriages take place within their own community, Bedia girls are not permitted to dance or resort to prostitution.

I waited for four months since I watched a documentary on a nomadic tribe in India who encourage their girls to prostitution and the boys therefore are pre-destined to become pimps. Driven by strong urge to visit to understand them and work for  betterment of this community took me to Madhya Pradesh last week . A different world which most of us cant imagine lies in out skirts of Bhopal , approximately 225 kms away from the city . There are about 51 such communities which inhabit Madhya Pradesh and live a non existent life. I travelled village to village and the bond I developed with them has given me one more aim to achieve, though an uphill task but I strongly believe " Where there is a will there's a way " And I am sure to find a way for upliftment of this tribe and the work has already begun.

In my next post I will be sharing the facts that I learnt from the ground zero and the perception people have about them from little they have learnt about Bedias on television channels or read about them . They live with a  painful past with some hope in the present  and  a bright future that I promised to them , which I hope I will be able to live up to with the determination I have. I make a strong appeal to everyone to support me in this great mission  

all pictures Copyright ©2012alkanarula 
Photo credits A.M.Faruqui.